Can we so simply permit our worry of sexual sin to place the lives of our kids in danger?
With all of the discuss COVID vaccinations, we overlook that there are different helpful vaccinations on the market, too.
“My kids don’t must be vaccinated towards HPV,” I’ve heard a few of my Mormon family and friends say. “They’ll nonetheless be virgins after they get married. They’ll by no means have to fret about an STD.”
Aside from the vindictive “folks get what they deserve” mentality of such a perception, the reality is that our children don’t must be intercourse addicts to grow to be contaminated with certainly one of 40 sexually transmitted human papillomaviruses that may result in cervical, vaginal, anal, vulvar, oral, throat and penile most cancers.
First, let’s set up some norms for this dialogue: science is actual, hormones are actual, lapses in judgment are actual.
If our son or daughter has a single momentary lapse, has intercourse only one time earlier than marriage after which rapidly and sincerely repents and by no means has intercourse once more till marriage, can we not imagine in forgiveness?
What if our son or daughter continues to be a virgin on their marriage ceremony day however they marry somebody who isn’t? Possibly their partner solely had one lapse or maybe that they had a number of. However they’ve repented and so they’re dedicated to sexual monogamy. Possibly our son or daughter doesn’t even learn about their partner’s previous.
Let’s add a number of different fundamental norms for this dialogue: Some folks lie convincingly, some folks don’t think about omitting vital data dishonest, some individuals are too ashamed to disclose elements of their previous.
Are we nonetheless OK with our baby getting most cancers as a punishment for one thing they didn’t even do?
One other disagreeable actuality is that 1 in 5 ladies and 1 in 16 males will likely be sexually assaulted whereas in faculty. Rapes happen on non secular campuses as nicely. Even at Brigham Younger College.
I’ve heard some mother and father say that their baby would combat to the dying to keep away from being raped, that nobody is actually raped with out at the least partially consenting. What I’ve by no means heard is the mum or dad of a lacking baby say they hope their baby has been murdered along with being raped.
Youngsters get overpowered and raped. Adults do, too. So do the aged.
If our baby has been traumatized by such a horrific occasion, do we actually wish to penalize them even additional with the lifelong data they may develop most cancers later because of this? That they may infect their future husband or spouse?
Apart from these eventualities, we must also acknowledge that our kids could merely select one other path in life than we wish for them. They might select to have a number of intercourse companions. Can we actually wish to see them die for his or her views on sexuality?
There’s a distinction between “powerful love” and “powerful vindictiveness.” Maybe we aren’t collaborating immediately in “honor killings,” however are we responsible of honor manslaughter? Honor neglect?
What if all our kids and their spouses are virgins after they marry and none of them are ever sexually assaulted? Are we then lastly capable of justify our refusal to vaccinate them?
Some marriages finish in divorce, and we discover ourselves coping with the sexual historical past of the brand new accomplice, if there may be to be one.
What if the wedding ended as a result of our baby’s partner had an affair?
What if our kids have great, profitable marriages in each manner potential, however then their partner dies in an accident or from most cancers or another sickness?
We’re again to coping with one more accomplice’s sexual historical past once more.
Not each contaminated particular person exhibits signs. Not each contaminated particular person develops most cancers. Some simply develop warts. Is that one thing we’re OK with inflicting on our family members, simply because we are able to’t settle for they’ll ever have intercourse, both consensually or non-consensually?
Some individuals are against all vaccines. There’s no convincing these people. However most of us are OK with vaccinating our children towards measles, mumps, rubella, tetanus and lots of different dangerous viruses.
Can we so simply permit our worry of sexual sin to place the lives of our kids in danger, when that threat might be tremendously diminished with a easy vaccination?
If a doctor should take an oath to “do no hurt,” I hope that we as mother and father could make the identical dedication to these sacred souls entrusted to our care.
Johnny Townsend, Seattle, is the creator of, amongst different works, “Am I My Planet’s Keeper?” “Racism by Proxy,” and “Queer Quilting.”